Why Not Get Married?

This is a question that many couples face. As dating leads into a deeper friendship, some couples choose to move in together, to test the waters, maybe to see how living with one another goes. It is a chance for them to get to know each other in a different light, with the plans of possibly tying the knot somewhere down the road. So why not get married?

There might be a few reasons why some choose not to get married, and keep in mind these are my personal opinions. The first reason I can think of is the cost. For some, the cost of being married is a huge factor. Once married there is a financial commitment which comes into play. Eventually there will be a mortgage, kids, car loans, and all of these items come with a price tag. There are those who view these items as constraints which may stop them from enjoying the adventurous side of life.

A second item which might be hard to let go of is the lifestyle of being single. It may appear single people have all of the fun. Once married will this lifestyle disappear? Will there be clubs, parties, and fun like there is now?

Another reason for not getting married is because there is not complete trust for both parties. It appears that some are together, but still seem to have one foot outside the door. How can there be complete commitment if one person is not willing to sacrifice when times get tough. Life is easier when these situations can be avoided right? There are some who honestly believe that marriage might require stressful times, and not going down that road will help them avoid those problems.

In my mind the largest reason people choose not to get married is because of commitment. Marriage is something which requires a lifetime of commitment, trust, and complete dedication. It is not something that should be taken lightly because you are involving the life of someone else in your own decisions. As time passes every decision you make will somehow affect the life of the other party and possibly children which have come into the scene. This may be scary for some.

So what is my answer to all of these items which are holding you back from getting married? Let go of fear and trust your heart. Marriage will bring you some of the happiest moments in life. As you watch your wife come down the aisle, knowing that she is set in dedicating her life to make you happy, all those worries will disappear. Knowing that every decision you make will be to bring her/his life happiness. Together you will have the opportunity to go through ups and downs, and it won’t even matter because you have each other. Travel, party, love, and get to know each other as best friends. All of those things you could do when you were single can now be done as a married couple.

Don’t get me wrong, there will be times when marriage gets tough, and these will be the times when you will have the opportunity to grow closer to your spouse. Learn to communicate, problem solve, and compromise. Marriage is a fantastic way to bring your life more happiness and an opportunity to discover true love.